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20-40-60 Etiquette: Do I say "no gifts, please?"

by Helen Ford Wallace and Lillie-Beth Brinkman and Callie Athey Published: May 5, 2013

Probably it is best just to send the announcement and not include your note as they might think you are having a celebration. If you are having a party and they are coming to your home, great! Then you could add “no gifts please.”

GUEST'S ANSWER: Devonne Carter, licensed clinical social worker who has taught etiquette classes at Oklahoma Christian University: It is never rude to tell folks not to send gifts. I would encourage you to leave out the word REQUIRED. For some people, due to their time, it is challenging to get a card sent out! It is always fine to simply say, “No gifts please”.

Callie Gordon is 20-something, Lillie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s, and social columnist Helen Ford Wallace is 60-plus. To ask an etiquette question, email For more 20-40-60 etiquette, go to

by Helen Ford Wallace
Society Editor
Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for...
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by Lillie-Beth Brinkman
Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman
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by Callie Athey
Freelance Writer
Callie Athey is 20-something and is a graduate from the University of Oklahoma. She has worked in various positions, ranging from Event Coordinator to Environmental Health and Safety Assistant. Currently, Callie is an Executive Assistant to a...
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