Probably it is best just to send the announcement and not include your note as they might think you are having a celebration. If you are having a party and they are coming to your home, great! Then you could add “no gifts please.”
GUEST'S ANSWER: Devonne Carter, licensed clinical social worker who has taught etiquette classes at Oklahoma Christian University: It is never rude to tell folks not to send gifts. I would encourage you to leave out the word REQUIRED. For some people, due to their time, it is challenging to get a card sent out! It is always fine to simply say, “No gifts please”.
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