They also prepared the best gourmet dinner I have ever had — Beef Wellington. And they took time to see that it was prepared perfectly. They certainly won me over with such loving attention and I have never forgotten it.
GUEST'S ANSWER: Kathy Walker, local volunteer and community leader: It can be a wonderful feeling to know that your new in-laws will be arriving for a visit. Planning for their visit can make a tremendous difference in the outcome!
Depending on the duration of the visit and the age and physical abilities of the relatives, whether it is a weekend visit or a visit for two weeks, and whether children are involved, parameters can be set and met by both parties.
As far as meals are concerned, breakfast is easy; lunch could be a picnic on one day and another at a museum during a visit to an exhibition. One dinner could be a family cook-off and another dinner could include your inviting friends or other relatives to be at the table.
A daily itinerary would be a good way to offer a plan with options. It would be kind of you to take your in-laws in your car to planned outings. However, if your in-laws are visiting for more than three days, perhaps they could arrange for their own rental car or hire a car service. Also, remember that much can be accomplished on foot, particularly if one lives in or near a city.
Otherwise, what about taking your in-laws on a long walk after your breakfast, lunch or dinner? Nothing could be better for the soul or for conversation.
Callie Gordon is 20-something; Lillie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s; and social columnist Helen Ford Wallace is 60-plus. You'll also find a guest answer. To ask an etiquette question, email firstname.lastname@example.org. For more 20-40-60 etiquette, go to blog.newsok.com/partiesextra.