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20-40-60 Etiquette: How do we coordinate gift giving?

How can I coordinate gift-giving for my children among relatives in order to avoid them getting the same gift multiple times? 20-40-60 Etiquette answers, with Heather Warlick as guest.
by Helen Ford Wallace and Lillie-Beth Brinkman Published: December 16, 2012

Many stores also have a registry for Christmas gift-giving. I have not been a big fan for this, except for weddings and showers, but in this case, it might work. Tell everyone that the registry is in a particular store (Dillard's, Target, BC Clark) and that your daughter received so many duplicates this year, the registry would be a great place for everyone to purchase and record gifts.

GUEST'S ANSWER: Heather Warlick, MOOD Publication Editor: Here's an idea: Create a “Wish List” on one of several popular online websites and add all the items on your child's Christmas list. You can email this list to the buyers in your family. They can easily purchase items, combining several items into one shipping order.

The list can be sorted by “purchased,” “unpurchased” or “all” so it's clear what has and hasn't been purchased. Happy Holidays!

Callie Gordon is twenty-something, Lillie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s, and social columnist Helen Ford Wallace is 60-plus. You'll also find a guest answer. To ask an etiquette question, email For more 20-40-60 etiquette, go to

by Helen Ford Wallace
Society Editor
Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for...
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by Lillie-Beth Brinkman
Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman
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