20-40-60 Etiquette: I can order for myself, thank you!

The 20-40-60 Etiquette panel and guest Richard Rosser wrestle with what to do when a date orders for a woman without asking what she wanted.
by Helen Ford Wallace and Lillie-Beth Brinkman Published: March 8, 2013
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HELEN'S ANSWER: You know, it is hard to know what to order for someone else, particularly if you don't know them well enough to know if that person has food allergies or what he or she really likes and doesn't like.

I would be tempted to politely say “give me a minute, and I'll figure out if that is what I really want.” Then, I would very firmly order what I wanted to eat that day.

Either way, it is perfectly acceptable to order for yourself, or, if what he ordered sounds good, let him order it for you.

GUEST'S ANSWER: Richard Rosser, author of the Piggy Nation book series and musical and first assistant director for “The Neighbors” on ABC: Did you like what he ordered? Unless it was the cheapest thing on the menu or you were allergic, I say let it go. If you enjoy spending time with the guy, maybe you can return the favor and order for him on the third date!

Callie Gordon is 20-something, Lillie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s, and social columnist Helen Ford Wallace is 60-plus. To ask an etiquette question, email helen.wallace@cox.net. For more 20-40-60 etiquette, go to blog.newsok.com/partiesextra.

by Helen Ford Wallace
Society Editor
Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for...
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by Lillie-Beth Brinkman
Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman
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