HELEN'S ANSWER: You know, it is hard to know what to order for someone else, particularly if you don't know them well enough to know if that person has food allergies or what he or she really likes and doesn't like.
I would be tempted to politely say “give me a minute, and I'll figure out if that is what I really want.” Then, I would very firmly order what I wanted to eat that day.
Either way, it is perfectly acceptable to order for yourself, or, if what he ordered sounds good, let him order it for you.
GUEST'S ANSWER: Richard Rosser, author of the Piggy Nation book series and musical and first assistant director for “The Neighbors” on ABC: Did you like what he ordered? Unless it was the cheapest thing on the menu or you were allergic, I say let it go. If you enjoy spending time with the guy, maybe you can return the favor and order for him on the third date!
Callie Gordon is 20-something, Lillie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s, and social columnist Helen Ford Wallace is 60-plus. To ask an etiquette question, email firstname.lastname@example.org. For more 20-40-60 etiquette, go to blog.newsok.com/partiesextra.