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20-40-60 Etiquette: I thought we were (Facebook) friends

20-40-60 Etiquette weighs in on how to handle a Facebook “friend's” persistent posts promoting a business, with NewsOK's Digital Managing Editor Alan Herzberger as guest.
by Helen Ford Wallace and Lillie-Beth Brinkman Published: December 9, 2012

HELEN'S ANSWER: I think that people understand when you unfriend a person who is trying to sell something. It makes sense to me that if you don't want to read those sales pitches, get rid of them. That also applies on Twitter. No explanation is necessary.

That being said, sometimes it is fun to read about what is for sale in various stores, particularly if you don't have time to get out and shop. Probably your friends know what you might like from their stores and feature them on their Facebook pages. I have been thankful to see some holiday ideas from our local Oklahoma City stores.

GUEST'S ANSWER: Alan Herzberger, Digital Managing Editor for NewsOK. com: Easy. Simply unfriend that person on Facebook. There is no social media law forcing you to be Facebook friends with anybody. However, if you feel like you are breaking social-media etiquette by unfriending someone, then you can always manage the updates you see from that person.

Select the options to manage the frequency of posts you will see from that individual. That's the best way to handle it quietly and diplomatically.

Callie Gordon is twenty-something, Lillie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s, and social columnist Helen Ford Wallace is 60-plus. You'll also find a guest answer. To ask an etiquette question, email For more 20-40-60 etiquette, go to

by Helen Ford Wallace
Society Editor
Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for...
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by Lillie-Beth Brinkman
Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman
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