But for close or in-town friends and nuclear family, a more personal message is warranted. How about reaching out to that person or family member and lending a helping hand?
It’s often appreciated even if not asked for.
And remember to “show up.” Just being there at the funeral or memorial service can mean the world for those left behind.
Callie Gordon is 20-something, Lillie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s, and social columnist Helen Ford Wallace is 60-plus. To ask an etiquette question, email email@example.com.