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20-40-60 Etiquette: Is email proper for condolences?

The women of 20-40-60 answer readers’ questions about proper etiquette. Yvette Walker has the guest answer.
BY CALLIE GORDON, LILLIE-BETH BRINKMAN AND HELEN FORD WALLACE, For The Oklahoman Published: August 18, 2014
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GUEST’S ANSWER: Yvette Walker, night news director at The Oklahoman and media ethics chair at the University of Central Oklahoma: Today we often learn about death and tragedy via the digital sphere, especially social media. If a friend or distant family member puts the news out there, it is certainly appropriate to respond that way.

But for close or in-town friends and nuclear family, a more personal message is warranted. How about reaching out to that person or family member and lending a helping hand?

It’s often appreciated even if not asked for.

And remember to “show up.” Just being there at the funeral or memorial service can mean the world for those left behind.

Callie Gordon is 20-something, Lillie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s, and social columnist Helen Ford Wallace is 60-plus. To ask an etiquette question, email helen.wallace@cox.net.