GUEST'S ANSWER: Kathy Walker, local civic leader and community volunteer: How unfortunate that someone whom you call a friend has not had time to invest in your relationship together as friends. Rather than take on a mantle of hurt feelings, perhaps you could leave a voice mail for him stating that you would love to try for lunch once again and leave it at that — no need for telling him your feelings of need or reference to his busy life.
If you don't hear from him, invest your time in developing other friendships and a busy meaningful life with new and interesting people, activities, and volunteer service to others. I'm sure you will make a great friend for someone else.
Callie Gordon is 20-something, Lillie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s, and social columnist Helen Ford Wallace is 60-plus. To ask an etiquette question, email firstname.lastname@example.org. For more 20-40-60 etiquette, go to blog.NewsOK.com/partiesextra.