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20-40-60 Etiquette: My feelings are hurt!

My friend keeps canceling plans on me; how can I fix the friendship? Kathy Walker is the guest for this column
by Helen Ford Wallace and Lillie-Beth Brinkman and Callie Gordon Published: May 12, 2013
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GUEST'S ANSWER: Kathy Walker, local civic leader and community volunteer: How unfortunate that someone whom you call a friend has not had time to invest in your relationship together as friends. Rather than take on a mantle of hurt feelings, perhaps you could leave a voice mail for him stating that you would love to try for lunch once again and leave it at that — no need for telling him your feelings of need or reference to his busy life.

If you don't hear from him, invest your time in developing other friendships and a busy meaningful life with new and interesting people, activities, and volunteer service to others. I'm sure you will make a great friend for someone else.

Callie Gordon is 20-something, Lillie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s, and social columnist Helen Ford Wallace is 60-plus. To ask an etiquette question, email helen.wallace@cox.net. For more 20-40-60 etiquette, go to blog.NewsOK.com/partiesextra.

by Helen Ford Wallace
Society Editor
Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for...
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by Lillie-Beth Brinkman
Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman
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by Callie Gordon
Freelance Writer
Callie Gordon, a graduate of the University of Oklahoma, is working at Chesapeake Energy in the Environment, Health, and Safety Department. She was previously an event coordinator for Chesapeake Energy.
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