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20-40-60 Etiquette: Shoeless in OKC

When I visit a work client's home, I always have to take my shoes off. How do I handle this uncomfortable situation?
by Helen Ford Wallace and Lillie-Beth Brinkman Modified: July 13, 2012 at 12:05 am •  Published: July 15, 2012

GUEST'S ANSWER: Hilarie Blaney, etiquette and international protocol consultant: I am curious to know what type of business you are conducting and for what period of time you are in this man's home. Is he Japanese, Chinese or just an American neat freak?

In Japan, being invited to a person's home is a high honor and you remove your shoes at the door, only to slide into provided slippers to wear while in the home. In addition, you must change those slippers and put on “toilet slippers” if you should need to visit the Powder Room, but remember to change back into the “house slippers.”

My classmate from Shanghai comes to visit me in Oklahoma City and immediately removes her shoes and wears little foot hose in my house. Some people are cognizant of the environment and do not want to track in pollution and chemicals as well as dirt.

So knowing which one of these areas is the cause will be helpful to you in your decision regarding how to handle this situation. Etiquette is about everyone feeling comfortable around each other. So I see you have a few options:

1. Wear or take socks or slippers and put them on when you enter the house so you are not barefoot.

2. Ask to meet at a professional location such as an office or restaurant to discuss business.

3. View it like this — it is his house, it is a business call and when doing business in another's country, you should follow their customs or requirements. This is proper protocol, but required to be barefoot is not.

4. If he wants you to go barefoot, get another new person to work with!

by Helen Ford Wallace
Society Editor
Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for...
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by Lillie-Beth Brinkman
Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman
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