All of my grown children see to it that my precious grandchildren look their best when they are around the relatives for the holidays. Most generally, everyone wears festive holiday clothes, even if it is just for dinner. I am always so proud of all of them.
GUEST'S ANSWER: Linda Miller, author of Fashion Matters Blog: If this is an annual occurrence, how do other family members dress for the multiple events?
If your family is like most, there are probably some who want to look festive, even if it's as simple as sparkly earrings or a red satin blouse, and others who prefer jeans and a sweatshirt.
Try following the lead of most of the other relatives.
Something as simple as a velvet jacket can dress up a pair of dark jeans.
Aim for pulled-together rather than sloppy.
Usually the focus of these get-togethers is on family and celebrating rather than attire.
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