CALLIE’S ANSWER: I would blow it off. If you feel like saying something, next time you go to somewhere casually say, “Is it my turn to get this or yours? I can’t remember?”
Hopefully that will help her jog her memory. OR you could “forget” your wallet. Ha!
LILLIE-BETH’S ANSWER: I think you can be direct with your friend and gently ask her in a nice way.
Forty dollars is a lot of money for an impromptu loan, and I would hate for that to hurt a friendship on either side – yours out of anger or hers out of guilt.
You could also go for a little more vague approach: Maybe the next time you make plans you could even say something like, “Do you want to get it this time, since I got it last time? That way we’ll be even.”
That kind of handling could backfire – it depends on the type of relationship you have with your friend – but it’s a way of evening things out without asking awkwardly for a payment.
I would never mind a reminder, and sometimes I DO forget or get busy – I’m terrible about getting things in the mail – and I would rather keep the friend than have something like that fester.