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20-40-60 Etiquette: Too much registering!

A pet gift registry? 20-40-60 Etiquette weighs in. Christina Nihira is the guest.
by Helen Ford Wallace and Lillie-Beth Brinkman and Callie Gordon Published: May 26, 2013

QUESTION: I just read an article that told about couples getting new pets and having “starter baby shower” parties for their pets, rather than for a baby. They signed up for a registry and asked friends for chew toys and treats for their dogs and cats. I think that is too much registering. I hate it! Whatever happened to being thankful that someone took the time to be thoughtful on their own? I thought we had gone too far with children's registries for birthday parties, despite the practicality. What do you think?

CALLIE'S ANSWER: That is just crazy. What more does a dog need then a couple of toys, a bed, food and water? While I love my dog, I can't imagine registering gifts for her. This registering thing definitely has gone too far. It is taking the fun out of giving!

LILLIE-BETH'S ANSWER: Celebrate your pets, but don't register for them. Registries are turning into a request for things instead of a celebration of a friendship, and this seems to be a case of going too far. Gift-giving should take into account the friendship and thoughtfulness of both the giver and a gracious receiver. A good friend might ask what you or your pet needs and then try to get it for you. Registries are handy, especially bridal ones, for letting people know colors and patterns going into homes. But I don't think pets have the ability to distinguish between the red or brown chew-toy and have a preference.

HELEN'S ANSWER: New pets are fun! If you decide to throw a party for your friends to meet the animal, then have fun doing that.

It seems to me that registering for pet presents is too much. If your guests want to bring a box of treats from the pet store, then they don't need help deciding that. Registries take the creativity from the gift giver.

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by Helen Ford Wallace
Society Editor
Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for...
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by Lillie-Beth Brinkman
Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman
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by Callie Gordon
Freelance Writer
Callie Gordon, a graduate of the University of Oklahoma, is working at Chesapeake Energy in the Environment, Health, and Safety Department. She was previously an event coordinator for Chesapeake Energy.
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