Share “20-40-60 Etiquette: What should I wear?”

20-40-60 Etiquette: What should I wear?

20-40-60 Etiquette: Take along a scarf or shawl to keep warm at an outdoor fall wedding.
by Helen Ford Wallace and Lillie-Beth Brinkman Published: September 30, 2012

QUESTION: I am attending a fall evening wedding that will be outdoors in Oklahoma City. I want to look nice for an evening wedding. I am worried about potentially being cold in cocktail attire, but also getting a long dress dirty if it happens to rain. I am in my mid 20s, as is the wedding party and most of the guests.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

CALLIE'S ANSWER: Wear a cocktail dress and bring a nice neutral scarf to wrap around your shoulders.

LILLIE-BETH'S ANSWER: I went to the most fun outdoor wedding a couple of years ago at the same time of year, and the couple getting married solved the cool-weather problem with their party favors: Placed in about every other seat (one per guest couple) was a nicely wrapped, monogrammed blanket for guests to use if they were cold. It was such a nice touch! Obviously, since you're not the host, you can't offer that option, even though it is a fun idea for others planning their own weddings. You can, however, wear a scarf or a wrap that could be used to cover up your arms or to drape temporarily on your legs during the ceremony. I know you're trying to plan your outfit in advance, but you can also check on the weather report for the week and adjust your outfit accordingly, keeping your long dress in mind if there's no chance of rain.

HELEN'S ANSWER: A dressy cocktail dress or a stylish suit with a beautiful blouse and jacket would work for the fall wedding. You can remove the jacket if it is too hot. A floor-length formal gown is always lovely and hopefully if it is raining, the wedding will be moved indoors.

The weather is usually still hot at this time of year, but cool fronts are always on the horizon. A pashmina shawl, wrap or scarf is a good fashion accessory for any season or event.

Continue reading this story on the...

by Helen Ford Wallace
Society Editor
Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for...
+ show more

by Lillie-Beth Brinkman
Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman
+ show more


  1. 1
    Tulsa-based Williams Cos. outlines policy for possible layoffs
  2. 2
    Vinita letter carrier saves girl from burning building, gets award
  3. 3
    Emails from Gov. Fallin's office show state agencies' struggle to respond to scrutiny over execution
  4. 4
    Planned anti-Muslim protests fizzle in Oklahoma, elsewhere
  5. 5
    Fuel tank explodes in fire at Owasso rock quarry; three firefighters hurt
+ show more