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20-40-60 Etiquette: What should I wear?

20-40-60 Etiquette: Take along a scarf or shawl to keep warm at an outdoor fall wedding.
by Helen Ford Wallace and Lillie-Beth Brinkman Published: September 30, 2012

GUEST'S ANSWER: Heather Warlick, Mood Publication Editor: As a part-time wedding singer for the last decade, I've been involved in so many Oklahoma weddings I've lost count. So, I've seen tons of amazing fashions on wedding guests. That's one of my favorite parts of the job.

Fall evenings in Oklahoma can get cold, so you need to make absolutely sure you have something to put over your shoulders to keep you warm. That's the most important part of your outdoor event wardrobe.

If the reception features a band or DJ for dancing, be sure to choose shoes you can dance in or bring a pair of slip-on flats in your clutch.

As for dress length and style, have fun! That's the point of a wedding and reception: to celebrate the couple with a party. Don't wear all white. Don't get too short or sexy. Don't get hung up on the definitions of “formal” and “cocktail attire.” Do let the event be a chance to let your personality shine through your fashion. Dance around a little bit in front of the dressing room mirror to see how you'll look on the dance floor.

If all else fails, grab your favorite LBD (little black dress) and jazz it up with a fabulous rhinestone brooch, a few stacked bracelets, chandelier earrings, a metallic or animal print clutch and a pair of modern platform pumps.

Callie Gordon is twenty-something; Lillie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s; and social columnist Helen Ford Wallace is 60-plus. You'll also find a guest answer. To ask an etiquette question, email For more 20-40-60 etiquette, go to

by Helen Ford Wallace
Society Editor
Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for...
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by Lillie-Beth Brinkman
Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman
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