People can make their own decisions on whether they would rather stay home because a host might serve something they cannot eat. It is bad manners for guests to point out what they can and cannot have for dinner. They should choose what they can eat and politely refrain from discussing it. Or they can offer to bring a dish that suits their diet and bring enough so they can share it with the others.
GUEST’S ANSWER: Dave Cathey, Food Editor, The Oklahoman: Find new friends for dinner parties. Invite the friends with all the special dietary needs to a cocktail party with a selection of light appetizers, which are easier to prepare for vegans, celiacs and gluten-freers.
Callie Gordon is 20-something, Lillie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s, and social columnist Helen Ford Wallace is 60-plus. To ask an etiquette question, email firstname.lastname@example.org.