GUESTS' ANSWER: Christina Nihira, local community volunteer and journalist: Dating rules today are less defined and murkier than in previous decades. As you approach the dating scene, keep in mind that your expectations for “proper” dating behavior may have to be eased to meet society's more casual attitudes.
That being said, it is possible to find kind, eligible gentlemen. It's all about location. Try to meet men that share similar interests. That could be doing a hobby, volunteering for a nonprofit organization or attending church. And, friends are a great resource. Get them to help if you're serious about finding a man with certain conduct.
Yes, decent men are scarce these days. Maybe even considered endangered. However, if you want to snare one of these rare species with a good heart, ultimately you have to put yourself out there.
Callie Gordon is twenty-something, Lillie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s, and social columnist Helen Ford Wallace is 60-plus. To ask an etiquette question, email helen. email@example.com. For more 20-40-60 etiquette, go to blog.newsok.com/partiesextra.