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20-40-60 Etiquette: Where are young people's manners?

20-40-60 Etiquette: Young people need help learning social graces.
by Helen Ford Wallace and Lillie-Beth Brinkman and Callie Gordon Published: April 14, 2014

She can stress the value of RSVPs, thank-you notes and how important it is to respect others. She might politely call it a “refresher course” for manners, so she does not give the impression to class members that they don’t know how to act.

GUEST’S ANSWER: Devonne Carter, licensed clinical social worker who has taught etiquette classes at Oklahoma Christian University: If she is the trainer, she can incorporate manners into the lessons as part of the curriculum, or even as “fun facts” on a typed sheet or as an opening trivia quiz. Good manners allow us to communicate with others who are different than ourselves.

It allows us to be in the same level and to connect. I can think of several reasons a young business person would want to connect with people of a different age or culture — those they are serving in the business or selling to, or their managers. They will benefit personally from these connections.

Callie Gordon is 20-something, Lillie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s, and social columnist Helen Ford Wallace is 60-plus. To ask an etiquette question, email

by Helen Ford Wallace
Society Editor
Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for...
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by Lillie-Beth Brinkman
Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman
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by Callie Gordon
Freelance Writer
Callie Gordon, a graduate of the University of Oklahoma, is working at Chesapeake Energy in the Environment, Health, and Safety Department. She was previously an event coordinator for Chesapeake Energy.
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