GUEST'S ANSWER: Mary McReynolds, book author: Yes, you are obligated. All gifts are to be acknowledged with a handwritten note or thank-you card. The person who gave you the gift took the time and care to give you a gift. You can take the time and care to acknowledge it with gratitude. Sorry if this sounds like a “must do,” but it is a “must do.”
Keep thank-you cards on hand for such occasions.
Signed, Mary McReynolds, whose mother raised her to write thank-you notes, always.
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