Ask an etiquette question, and you will get several answers. Then you decide for yourself how you would handle the situation. Callie Gordon is twentysomething, Lillie-Beth Brinkman is in her 40s, and Helen is 60-plus. At times, a guest will weigh in. Question: I am having a dinner party. How do I figure out where to seat people so there is great conversation flow? Do husbands and wives need to sit next to each other? - Callie's answer: To keep the flow of conversation, I would not place husbands and wives next to each other. They see and talk to each other every day! New and different! To keep everyone in on the table conversation, put the most outgoing people in the middle and work out from the middle. Also, so as to keep it simple, I would put you and your spouse on the ends so that no one feels as if they are on the end being left out. - Lillie-Beth's answer: Seating guests at a party takes more intuition than rules, although start with the guest of honor with the host. Group people together who have common interests. Keep in mind personalities that will mesh. Mix it up if you can; best friends don’t have to be seated next to each other, but people who don’t like each other shouldn’t have to endure close seating, either. It’s a lot to be aware of as a host. - Helen's answer: Many hosts and hostesses spend a great deal of time working on seating for dinner parties to make sure guests have a great time. Seat outgoing people with shy ones. Match people with similar interests. If there is an even number of men and women, they are seated man, woman, man, woman. Our guests usually know each other, so they are happy wherever they sit. Hopefully, good food, party favors and fascinating dinner partners will make for a lovely party. - Guest answer--Bebe MacKellar, interior decorator: I rarely seat husbands and wives together when I entertain. If it is a family dinner, I try to rotate the seating so that we don’t always have the same places, and when I have a larger dinner party, I try to alternate men and women. I try to accommodate left-handed people so elbows aren’t hitting neighbors, and I try to mix talkative people with those who are shy. I find people enjoy visiting with someone new. I also try to keep the tables a little crowded, as it encourages warmth and conversation. The most important thing when hosting a dinner is to have fun yourself, and your guests will follow suit. Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a former debutante and assistant features editor for The Oklahoman. Helen Ford Wallace has written a social column for The Oklahoman for many years and has been on various local ball committees. Callie Gordon, a college sophomore, was a 2009 debutante and has been in many new social situations recently.