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20/40/60 Etiquette: Should I send flowers?

20/40/60 Etiquette: The women of 20-40-60 make recommendations on whether or not to visit a sick colleague in the hospital. The Oklahoman Features Editor Matt Price has the guest answer.
by Helen Ford Wallace and Lillie-Beth Brinkman and Callie Gordon Published: August 25, 2014

QUESTION: My colleague is in the hospital. Do I mail her a card from our department? Do I go to visit? Are there rules I should follow since we are work friends? Any ideas?

CALLIE’S ANSWER: Sending a card or flowers is a great idea! Do what you feel comfortable with.

LILLIE-BETH’S ANSWER: Almost any well-wishing gesture you make will be appreciated.

It depends on how close you are to your work friend whether you visit personally or organize a gift, flowers or a card from the entire office.

I am so thankful for all the support I received from current and former colleagues during a recent crisis — cards, visits and other gestures, large and small. All of their kind thoughts meant a lot, as I am sure yours will, too, whatever your actions are.

HELEN’S ANSWER: When someone is in the hospital, he is there for a reason, and so don’t feel like you have to visit, unless you are very close to that person. He may be having tests or doctor consults. Send a card or flowers from the department.

That way, the colleague knows everyone is thinking about her. One person could be designated to call or email from the entire group. Think how you might want to be treated if you were the one in the hospital. Would you want visitors? A card? Lots of flowers? Act accordingly.

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by Helen Ford Wallace
Society Editor
Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for...
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by Lillie-Beth Brinkman
Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman
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by Callie Gordon
Freelance Writer
Callie Gordon, a graduate of the University of Oklahoma, is working at Chesapeake Energy in the Environment, Health, and Safety Department. She was previously an event coordinator for Chesapeake Energy.
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