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I remember the first time I learned about arranged marriages. I thought to myself that they must be loveless and passionless and just downright miserable. I mean, who really wants to spend the rest of your life with someone you don't really know? It seems so risky. If you don't get along then you're stuck in a loveless, miserable relationship for the rest of your life. You could divorce or cheat, I suppose, but nobody really wants that. Most people would rather pick the right one in the first place.
The couple in this YouTube clip had an arranged marriage and were able to make it flourish into a loving and lasting relationship. The steps they took to make their relationship last are great steps for everyone in a relationship. Below are four things every couple can learn from this arranged marriage that will make their own relationship happier.
Be respectful of each other's differences.
Oftentimes, you expect your spouse to have the same views as you do and you want your spouse to agree with you most of the time. That's what makes you "compatible." This compatability is so important that most people would never dream of marrying someone else unless you thought they were compatible with you. But in this couples' arranged marriage, there was no way to test each others' compatability before marriage.
Instead, the couple had to learn to respect each other. They undoubtedly had their differences but they didn't take each others' differences as an insult. They were respectful to each other and allowed each other to have their differences - free of judgment and criticism.
In order to have a truly healthy relationship, you need to be respectful of each others' differences. Instead of being critical or angry at your spouse for not having the same views as you, be respectful of your differences. You can still love each other if you're different.