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5 topics to discuss before marriage

Don't let the fantasy of marriage undermine the reality of it.
Mayra Bitsko, FamilyShare Modified: August 19, 2014 at 5:19 am •  Published: August 21, 2014
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It’s, without a doubt, an exhilarating feeling when your partner pops the question. Your first reaction is telling your loved ones the good news. Later, you begin to think when it’s a good time for the wedding, the preparations and if everything will come together as expected. But have you and your partner discussed life as husband and wife? When it comes to future goals, are you both on the same page? Besides talking about the wedding, it’s wise to discuss life as a married couple before moving forward.

Thanks to my first marriage, I learned certain topics were a "must" to discuss if I ever planned on remarrying. Years later when I did marry again, I already had a talk with my partner. A thorough discussion before marriage has brought us easier times.

For the most part, couples discuss life together before getting engaged or when they know their relationship is serious. But there are some people who I have met throughout my life who married based on a fantasy. Sadly, their marriages took a turn for the worse.

Here are 5 topics to discuss with your partner before taking the big step.

The Past

You should clear the air about your past. Many people have nothing to worry about, but some do. Ask yourself if there are any unresolved or unsettled issues that has potential of resurfacing in your marriage. The only thing you are trying to avoid is trouble later in your happy marriage.

Goals

Do you respect each other’s goals? Are you both willing to support each other’s goals? Are the goals easy to deal with as a married couple? If you can answer yes to any of these questions, you and your future spouse are willing to work as a team. If not, you should reevaluate the relationship.

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