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Being a husband is hard. We try our hardest to be the best husband that we can be and we often feel like we're failing. Not all the time, I guess. We have good days and bad days and some downright depressing days. But despite it all, we're still right here by your side trying to make it work.
This isn't really unique to us. Life is hard for everybody. Everybody's trying to make it in life and find happiness along the way. But as husbands, there are unique things that make it especially difficult for us. We might not tell you because there's this unspoken Boy Code we have to live by that tells us we can't express our feelings. We're supposed to, "Be men," and, "Man up."
But underneath it all, there are things that we would like you to know that could really help us. So here it goes:
Here are 7 things we husbands wish our wives knew about us.
1. We're not Prince Charming. We're your husband. We don't like it when you expect us to be Prince Charming. In fact, it feels objectifying. Not all of us know how to ride a horse or fight dragons. Not all of us are as dashing or debonair as Prince Charming, either, so don't expect us to be. Some of us would rather read books, work on cars or play video games. That doesn't mean we're defective. It just means we're a unique person. Please love us for who we are.
2. No, it's not just about your body. We really want intimacy with you. We get it. Ever since you hit puberty you got used to boys who don't even know you staring at your chest. We also get that you've had bad dates where all they wanted you for was your body. But that's not us. We're your husband and we love you. We don't want to have sex with you for the same reason that those other boys ogled you as a teenager. Please don't group us with those other guys. Sex is important to us and it helps us show and feel loved in ways we can't show or feel with anyone else.
3. "Happy wife, happy life," is offensive. It's always funny when you hear someone say, "Happy wife, happy life." Or, is it? I got another joke for you: What do you tell a woman with two black eyes? Nothing. You already told her twice! Funny right? Neither is that happy wife, happy life joke. Expecting us (even jokingly) to make you happy so we can be happy doesn't make us feel good. It makes us feel subservient.
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