After losing boyfriend to diabetes, Oklahoma woman raises awareness about seriousness of disease

by Jaclyn Cosgrove Published: July 6, 2014

Craig Carter looked over at his girlfriend, Valerie Dye, as the two lawyers stood near where couples file for marriage at the courthouse.

“Why don’t we step over there and pick up our marriage license?” he asked Dye.

“That’s not a proposal,” she told him.

It was a running joke between the couple, for Carter to suggest marriage and Dye to tell him he needed to make a real proposal.

Finally, in late 2013, Carter told her to expect a real one. “I hate to ruin the surprise, but the next time I get you out of town, I’m proposing.”

The couple soon planned to go to Eureka Springs, Ark., but about a week later, Carter suffered complications because of Type 2 diabetes and died at a Tulsa hospital.

At the time, Dye and Carter worked together at a law firm in Tulsa and were excited to share their lives together. Dye’s three children and Carter’s two children got along well, with two of their daughters who were the same age calling themselves twins.

“It has impacted my kids too,” Dye said. “My 5-year-old didn’t understand death, and last winter, he told me, ‘I’m mad at heaven — heaven needs to go to jail, and heaven made Craig die.’”

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by Jaclyn Cosgrove
Medical and Health Reporter
Jaclyn Cosgrove writes about health, public policy and medicine in Oklahoma, among other topics. She is an Oklahoma State University graduate. Jaclyn grew up in the southeast region of the state and enjoys writing about rural Oklahoma. She is...
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I knew diabetes was a serious disease, but I never took it seriously because so many people have it.”

Valerie Dye,

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