How pregnancy is tied to violence
How pregnancy is tied to violence
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By Devona Walker
Published: September 27, 2007
At age 14, the girl was routinely choked when she refused to have sex with the boy she was dating.
By age 15, she was pregnant by a 24-year-old man who claimed to be 20.Advertisement
Wider age gap means greater violence risk
Last month, 16-year-old Bailey Thrasher of Yukon was stabbed to death by the 32-year-old man she had been involved with. He was a drill instructor at the alternative school she attended when they met. The teen's father reported that Robert Roberson became progressively more violent as the relationship wore on and as the teen started to pull away from him.
Many who work with at-risk teens say violence is primarily about control.
"Men who are out dating young girls, they are simply predators,” said Linda LeBelle, director of Focus Adolescent Services, an international teen violence clearinghouse. "The very nature of being a predator is to abuse. It's a control issue.”
Many assume it is primarily teenage boys who are the fathers. However, men older than 20 are responsible for five times as many births among junior high girls as are junior high boys. Men over 20 are 2
times more responsible for births among high school girls as high school boys.
In 70 percent of these cases, the relationships end before the birth of the child.
Accessing the other half
"All the guy wants is one thing from us. And then leave,” said an 18-year-old who has a 3-month-old baby.
"It happened. It happened. But she's here now. And I love her,” the 18-year-old said of being a parent.
Pregnant teens at Oklahoma City Public Schools balance college prepatory classes with vocational training and learning parenting skills. The Oklahoman is not identifying the teenage students quoted in this story because of concerns for their safety.
For many young girls, having a child is a life-changing experience, said Sandra Bennett, a local teacher.
One critical gap in counseling, educating and preparing young adults for parenthood is that it is limited to the young girls.
"We give support to the girl. The baby is a huge motivation for her to change her life,” Bennett said. "But there's a whole other half to this problem that we do not even address.”
Expecting teen fathers, she says, also need support and education. This stress, she says, likely contributes to them violently acting out.
"I think the young man so often sees her moving on,” Bennett said. "And that makes him angry. Getting her pregnant then becomes a way for him to hang on.”
Another dilemma of the teen pregnancy problem is the young women who quit school once they get pregnant.
About 41 percent of teens who begin families before age 18 never finish high school, according to the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unwanted Pregnancy.
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Culture and Lifestyle, Relationships, Crime, Health and Fitness, Medicine, Sexual and Reproductive Health, Pregnancy and Childbirth, Family, Parenting, Teenagers, Domestic Violence, Birth Control

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Teachers and Principals are still scared to step in when they see some violence, or kids tell them 'what to do with it'...
School board members have meetings with alot of good talk, but they will not 'walk the walk' it's all to pacify the parents and blow smoke up the teachers hiney...
Put Principals in schools along with Vice-Principals that can handle problems or fights until police or security arrives, make home-ec. a required class again, k thru 12 boys regardless of age should be clean shaven, and all students should refer to all adults especially during school as Mr., Miss, or Ms..
Schools are a place of EDUCATION, MANNERS, and PREPAREDNESS for the FUTURE... NOT, FIGHTS, carrying WEAPONS, CUSSING, PLANNING a off campus PARTY, or speaking down to the GIRLS...
WE need to quit handling these kids like there two year olds... They are young adults that think and some are very devious and when given the chance, will hurt their family or you, to get what they think they want/need...
Talk has been going on for years about teen pregnacy, and everyone is still talking about it... First of all implement the above at school and then we somehow have to start working on the single parents and the parents that are afraid to stand up to these bullies and gang members...
Schools by starting home-ec. may help by teaching self respect as a part of it... Parents Cussing, Yelling, Screaming, and the likes, WILL NOT HELP...
School Boards, Churchs, and all the other outlets stop talking and really start putting up some informative information, place's for girls & boys to go (not just one),...
Everytime you talk or open a help place it's never enough, and it take too long... They need HELP NOW!!!