With all due respect to Yogi Berra, when you come to a fork in the road, sometimes you can't take it. Sometimes you have to let the road come to you.
Which brings us to the University of Oklahoma's relationship with the bruised and battered Big 12 Conference. OU no longer controls its own destiny.
Texas A&M is high-tailing it out of the league, same as Nebraska and Colorado did a year ago. And OU's options will be formed by circumstance somewhat out of its control.
Do the Sooners stick it out in the Big 12? Depends on other factors.
Do the Sooners make a run for the Pac-12 and jump aboard the Super Conference Express? Again, by definition, it all depends.
This time, the Sooners can't make a decision and then make it the right one, which usually is a superb way to conduct business.
This time, the Sooners have to play the waiting game. Which for the next week or so could lead to frustration.
“That's probably natural given the weeks of drama,” an OU official said, referring to another summer of Big 12 shakiness. “Everyone is understandably getting tired of the speculation and feelings of instability.”
Some leaders have worked tirelessly to keep the Big 12 viable, including athletic directors DeLoss Dodds (Texas), Joe Castiglione (OU) and Bill Byrne (A&M).
But Byrne finally gave up the ghost in the face of mounting Aggie pressure, and who knows if Dodds and Joe C. can find further solutions. Or even want to anymore?
Do they try to salvage the Big 12, and if so, with whom? Notre Dame and Arkansas remain pipe dreams.
So next on the list is Brigham Young.
Does the Big 12 even want BYU? The feelings are split. Some see BYU as a bona fide balm, a football program with an excellent tradition and a national fan base. Others think it's ludicrous to add a school that one Mountain West Conference source said can be difficult to deal with, a school with a primary mission of advancing the Mormon church.
Of course, who says BYU wants the Big 12? The Cougars left the Mountain West this summer for football independence and have signed a lucrative television contract with ESPN.
Some in Utah see clearly that BYU needs affiliation with a league that can provide access to major bowl games. The Cougars have horrific bowl agreements (Armed Forces Bowl in 2011, Poinsettia Bowl in 2012, Kraft Fight Hunger Bowl in 2013) no matter their record.
And BYU's four post-September home games this season are San Jose State, Idaho State, Idaho and New Mexico State.
But other BYU personnel see independence as superior to the uncertainty of an unstable league like the Big 12.
So how do the Sooners make a decision about their Big 12 future until they know who the league could even attract?
Not that OU could automatically jump to another conference. The most stable scenario for the Sooners is moving to the Pac-12 with three other Big 12 schools to form an eastern division of a Pac-16.
Many on the OU campus want to see the Sooners join the Pac-12, and Bob Stoops has expressed continual excitement about the prospect.
But does OU want to go to the Pac-12 without Texas? The Sooners like being in a league with the Longhorns — keep your enemies closer, don't you know — but the Longhorn Network collides with the Pac-12's new network, and concessions would have to be made, at least on UT's side and perhaps on both.
The Sooners might still be interested in going to a Pac-16 with Oklahoma State and two other Big 12 members — Texas Tech, Missouri, Kansas, whoever — but does the Pac-12 want OU without Texas? That's not known.
“Certainly Texas TV would have to be accommodated,” said one Big 12 source. “What would have to happen for Texas to give up the network they've worked pretty hard to produce? I don't know.”
How can OU make a decision between trying to make a go of the Big 12 or leaving for a Pac-16, when it doesn't know what either scenario holds? Thus the waiting game.
Of course, it's possible neither scenario pans out. Possible that the Big 12 continues to spiral into disrepair. Possible that the Pac-12 wants OU only in a package with Texas and Texas won't go. Possible that Pac-12 commissioner Larry Scott is fed up with the Longhorns. Possible that the Sooners decide West isn't best if they can't go with Texas.
At that point, the Sooners would rethink their reluctance to consider the SEC. Or make a sales pitch to the Big Ten, though good luck with that.
See the problem? Circumstances prevent OU from being in decision-making mode. The Sooners are at a fork in the road. And that's where they'll have to stay until this mess starts to clear up.
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