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20-40-60 Etiquette: Baby showers for second- or third children

Is it customary to have baby showers for second and third children? 20-40-60 Etiquette answers with Hilarie Blaney as guest.
by Helen Ford Wallace and Lillie-Beth Brinkman Published: February 24, 2013

QUESTION: If a pregnant woman had a first-time baby shower and then becomes pregnant two years later, is it acceptable for her to have a second one if friends/relatives want to plan one?

CALLIE'S ANSWER: If the friends and relatives want to have one, what is the problem? Go for it!

LILLIE-BETH'S ANSWER: My dear friends celebrated baby showers for each of my three babies with me, and for them (my friends), I am grateful. I have also hosted baby showers for friends having children after their firstborn.

The shower for the first child generally is the biggest one that covers the items a mom needs. The first one often includes more people, but the subsequent ones can be equally as meaningful. If the child is going to be a different gender than the first one, the mom may need new clothes, and even if she has all the basics, it's fun to have some items that are new and clean and untouched by baby teeth or hands.

When you're in the middle of child-rearing, especially when your kids are young, there's never enough time to see friends, and a baby shower is a happy excuse for everyone to get together, no matter how many children were born before the latest one.

HELEN'S ANSWER: Friends are wonderful! If they want to celebrate your second-born child with you by having a shower, that is wonderful, too!

Children are such treasures, and by getting together to celebrate a new life, it adds such pleasure to the family. My heartfelt thanks to my friends who chose to celebrate the birth of my children by having showers and bringing all sorts of baby items that I needed.

I still question family members hosting the shower, but sometimes if family members are the hosts, they invite only other family members to participate.

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by Helen Ford Wallace
Society Editor
Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for...
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by Lillie-Beth Brinkman
Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman
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