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20-40-60 Etiquette: Should I take a cheesey gift?

Mollie Bennett is guest for this week's 20-40-60 Etiquette question about whether a wine-and-cheese party honoring an engaged couple is a shower or not.
by Helen Ford Wallace and Lillie-Beth Brinkman and Callie Athey Published: April 28, 2013
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QUESTION: I am invited to a cheese-and-wine party for a bride-to-be. Do I take a gift? If so what are some ideas for a gift?

CALLIE'S ANSWER: Yes, you bring a gift. Usually on the invitation it states where the future bride and groom are registered. If not, call one of the hostesses and ask.

LILLIE-BETH'S ANSWER: If it's for a shower, then yes, bring a gift for the bride. You can also bring a hostess gift like a bottle of wine. The invitation should state the theme; perhaps here, the theme is related to items for the new couple to use for entertaining. If it's simply a party in their honor, then a gift isn't necessarily required. Call the hostess and ask to get the best guidance.

HELEN'S ANSWER: Usually the invitation states if the party is a wedding shower and if there is gift required for the future bride. Maybe this is just a celebration to be with friends before the wedding. However, the simple solution is to call the hostess and inquire.

A bottle of wine would be something that goes along with the theme of the party or a gift certificate to a cheese shop.

GUEST'S ANSWER: Mollie Bennett, Oklahoma City Memorial Marathon Coordinator: I love wine and cheese parties. Who doesn't love a good bottle of wine along with some great cheeses? It is always nice to take a hostess gift to any party, so in this case I would bring a bottle of wine to contribute or some grapes and berries for the host to put with the cheese and wine. As for the bride, if the invitation lists where she is registered, I would look for something that could be used with wine or cheese on her registry. If the invitation does not list her registry, I would bring stemless wineglasses. They are my favorite!

by Helen Ford Wallace
Society Editor
Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for...
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by Lillie-Beth Brinkman
Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman
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by Callie Athey
Freelance Writer
Callie Athey is 20-something and is a graduate from the University of Oklahoma. She has worked in various positions, ranging from Event Coordinator to Environmental Health and Safety Assistant. Currently, Callie is an Executive Assistant to a...
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