How do I answer the question 'why am I single?' 20-40-60 answers
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Question: Dear 20-40-60,
I am a woman in her mid-thirties constantly being hassled by why I do not have a boyfriend or am not married.
Usually, I respond by telling people that you can have a fulfilling life still (career, friends, family). However, this only seems to make the other person want to argue their point further that I would be happier with a man in my life. I am tempted to just lie to people about my status. Ha!
Any helpful suggestions on a polite way to handle my response?
Callie’s answer: Yes, your life is still fulfilling but really?? Are you looking for that right person?
If you are, I would just simply say “I just haven’t found someone yet, but for the time being I am enjoying life by being with friends and family! I do have to say I love it for now!”
Being positive is always a better approach then argumentative.
Lillie-Beth’s answer: It probably gets tiring to hear the comments over and over, but can you laugh it off once you’ve explained that you’re happy?
One thing I used to say to deflect people from inquiring more about why a particular, expected stage in life wasn’t happening is “Oh, I’m not worried about it. XXX will happen if it’s supposed to when it’s the right time.” A statement like that doesn’t leave much room for additional comment.
If particular people commit the offense continually, then you’ll probably have to pull them over and tell them how you feel when they say things like that and to please stop. But a lie about your status would only lead to more explaining later, which is the last thing you’d want to do.
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