20-40-60 Etiquette---How many showers?
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By Callie Gordon, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace
QUESTION: If a pregnant woman had a first-time baby shower and then becomes pregnant two years later, is it acceptable for her to have a second one if friends/relatives want to plan one?
CALLIE’S ANSWER: If the friends and relatives want to have one, what is the problem? Go for it!
LILLIE-BETH’S ANSWER: My dear friends celebrated baby showers for each of my three babies with me, and for them (my friends), I am grateful. I have also hosted baby showers for friends having children after their firstborn.
The shower for the first child generally is the biggest one that covers the items a mom needs. The first one often includes more people, but the subsequent ones can be equally as meaningful. If the child is going to be a different gender than the first one, the mom may need new clothes, and even if she has all the basics, it’s fun to have some items that are new and clean and untouched by baby teeth or hands.
When you’re in the middle of child-rearing, especially when your kids are young, there’s never enough time to see friends, and a baby shower is a happy excuse for everyone to get together, no matter how many children were born before the latest one.
HELEN’S ANSWER: Friends are wonderful! If they want to celebrate your second-born child with you by having a shower, that is wonderful, too!
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