20-40-60 Etiquette---Do I confront the mother of the daycare chomper?
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By Callie Gordon, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace
QUESTION: I take my child to daycare and he loves to go. Lately, he has been the victim of a biter and I am very good friends with his mother. The issue has been addressed by the staff because it is not just my child who is involved, and the other child will removed from daycare if it continues. My question: Is it polite to mention the situation (the biting of my child) to my friend, the child’s mother?
CALLIE’S ANSWER: Do not tell the parent. She has been told what her child is doing. You don’t need to be more involved, the day care already is.
LILLIE-BETH’S ANSWER: This is horrible for everyone involved, but it’s common. A toddler biter broke the skin of one of my sons years ago in Mother’s Day Out at our church. He healed, but his teacher later noted that such incidents are often worse for the parents of the biter than the bitten because it’s such a hard habit to stop in little ones. In my son’s case, the biter didn’t get to come back to the church because of a policy that involved something like “three strikes and you’re out.”
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