20-40-60 Etiquette---We've got mail
(Thanks, Renee Grannis for sharing insight about wedding showers with 20-40-60 Etiquette. HFW)
Someone showed me the article in the June 10 newspaper reference wedding showers. Thought you might like to know a little of the original reason/history for bridal showers.
Many, many years ago, when a couple were married without parental consent, their close friends would “shower them with gifts” since there wouldn’t be a public wedding and reception. This happened at one celebration (generally after the wedding). This carries forward a couple of the traditions – a shower is not hosted by a family member (since the family didn’t approve of the marriage), people invited to the shower were NOT invited to the wedding (since there was no public wedding/reception), and when a shower is hosted, there is only one (not multiples)
Having said that, our society has changed many of the customs and traditions. Unfortunately, most of the changes were to benefit the bridal couple and not the guests. I have etiquette books back to the late 1800s and follow how some of the customs and traditions have changed over the years.
Anyway, just thought you might like to know.
Respectfully,
–
Renée Grannis
Master Bridal Consultant
Association of Bridal Consultants
Ethics and Compliance Director
Former Education Director – 19 years
Former Texas State Coordinator – 5 years
Former Virginia State Coordinator
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