20-40-60 Etiquette---Can I check the time?
YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE!
By Callie Gordon, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace
QUESTION: Are watches obsolete? I was recently at a dinner with several people. Two of the women kept looking at their cellphones (to check the time, they said), but I felt like they were taking a quick look at their text messages. It was annoying and distracting. Am I wrong to think cellphones should be put away during a lovely dinner and if you need to check the time, look at your watch.
CALLIE’S ANSWER: Today people do business through email and checking their phone is part of their job. No one is trying to be rude. Sorry. It is now part of our culture and immediate response is sometimes needed or required.
LILLIE-BETH’S ANSWER: People are more distracted these days, and yes, cellphones have replaced watches as a timekeeper for many people — after all, they reset themselves and are accurate. And yes, people may miss out on a meaningful time with friends by being in constant communication with the world beyond their immediate one, thanks to cellphones.
However, that doesn’t mean you have to live like that or stay upset with those who do.
Keep in mind that sometimes the cellphone is the tool that allows people to get away from work or their families long enough to steal dinner with friends. By staying in touch with people who are counting on them, your friends might get some time with you that they wouldn’t normally have. Parents often need to be available to children at home or with a sitter. Others have something going on at work that needs attention. It would be nice if people who fall in a group like this explained why their phones were out so you would understand or if they involved you in their social media conversations somehow.
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