Share “Never miss a good chance to shut up”

Never miss a good chance to shut up

Listening means stop talking, strive to understand, observe body language, don’t interrupt, and forgo planning what you want to say in return. Just listen.
BY CHARLOTTE LANKARD, For The Oklahoman Published: April 1, 2014
Advertisement

“Never miss a good chance to shut up!” was the headline of an article that caught my attention as I flipped through the pages of a magazine in a waiting room. It was written by Dr. Phil McGraw, psychologist, author and talk show host who gives credit to his father for that bit of wisdom.

The article was about how quickly we share personal information before we really know people. My mind went immediately to the online dating sites where men and women share personal details with complete strangers. McGraw believes people need to earn your trust, and being cautious and slow to divulge details is simply wise.

The article also made me think of how often people come to a therapist saying their problem is they don’t know how to communicate, meaning they want a therapist to teach them how to talk to each other. However, what most people need to learn is how to be quiet and listen.

Listening means stop talking, strive to understand, observe body language, don’t interrupt and forgo planning what you want to say in return — just listen. If there is a pause, you simply remain quiet and wait. The person may want to talk some more. The person will let you know when he or she is finished. Even then, it is still not your turn to talk. The next step is to say back to them what you heard to make sure you understood what was said. And if there is something you misunderstood, it can be clarified.

Continue reading this story on the...


AROUND THE WEB

  1. 1
    ONEOK Partners to invest up to $100 million to expand capacity in Permian Basin
  2. 2
    Report: Thunder signs Josh Huestis to 4-year deal
  3. 3
    Thunder TV analyst Nancy Lieberman expected to become Kings assistant coach
  4. 4
    Dodgers send Olivera to Braves in three-way trade
  5. 5
    MTV's 'Real World' sets casting call in Oklahoma City
+ show more

FEATURED JOBS



× Trending health Article