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(NOTICE: This Ask Amy column is for release Feb. 7, 2011 and is STRICTLY EMBARGOED until that date.)
Don't Be Bullied into Facebook 'Friendship'
By Amy Dickinson
Tribune Media Services
DEAR AMY: I am wondering if anyone has had an experience like mine on Facebook -- and I wonder what the proper response should be.
I received a "friend" request on Facebook from someone who was not a friend, but an acquaintance. I opted to ignore the request. I then received an unpleasant message from this person.
I responded to the e-mail in an apologetic manner, saying I was mostly using Facebook for family contact. However, apparently this person remains hostile. Fortunately she doesn't live in my area, but we do share some friends on Facebook.
I'm wondering how you would handle this situation, if it continues to be a problem. -- Facing Facebook
DEAR FACING: You shouldn't have to communicate with someone who is unpleasant. These obligations are reserved for bosses or unpleasant family members, not Facebook nonfriends.
You can "block," ''ignore" or merely disregard a person with whom you don't wish to be in touch.
You can also consider accepting this friend request without enabling her to send messages to you.
Facebook has a feature enabling users to set up special "groups." You can categorize (and isolate) your fellow Facebook contacts into groups of family members, colleagues, high school alumnae, etc.
Many of us have Facebook friends who are not even acquaintances -- widening the social networking circle -- but if this person is unpleasant, then you shouldn't feel compelled to include her in any circle, even a virtual one.
DEAR AMY: I have a close friend who is strong and healthy. She works out, skis and is very active. She also lives very well, drives a very nice car and can afford valet parking and/or taxi service if she is not in the mood to park in a parking lot.
My friend has access to handicapped parking permits for her parents.
When she goes out on her own to meet me or other friends, she always pulls out the permit and uses it to park in one of the handicapped parking places.
Not only does she use it, but she also makes light of it to others who did park far away or paid valet by ensuring they know she got a great spot by using the handicapped space.