When I was a young woman contemplating marriage, my mother used to say: You don't just marry the man. You marry the whole family.
Boy, she wasn't kidding. Now I see the same maxim applies to houses: You don't just buy the house, you buy the whole neighborhood.
And, if you ask architect Marianne Cusato, what's around a home matters more than the house itself.
In her new book “The Just Right Home” (Workman, April 2013), Cusato doesn't even get to the particulars of the house until Chapter 13.
“That surprised even me,” Cusato said when I called to talk about her new book.
Cusato, 38, is known for the adorable Katrina Cottages she designed for those left homeless after the eponymous hurricane. The under 500-square-feet of amazingly efficient and cute-as-a-button houses won Cusato lots of awards.
When I heard she'd put her latest thinking between covers, I grabbed an early copy, read it and called Cusato, whom I have talked to before about Americans' home needs.
Me: In writing this book, what did you learn that you didn't know before you started?
Cusato: The book turned out to be much less about the home itself and more about finding your quality of life. Where you choose to live — whether in a bustling city or a quiet neighborhood — has a tremendous impact on how you spend your days.
Q: Seems your take-home — literally — message is: First decide on the place. Second, find your place in it.
Exactly. Too many buyers and renters do the reverse. That's a mistake.
It's easy to get swept away by the romantic view of what a house offers, and overlook what it would be like to live there.
Many trade commute time for more house. They rationalize that they can get a fourth bedroom and a bigger yard if they drive a little longer. But they're not thinking about how a half-hour more on the road each way will impact their life.
Q: Thank goodness the housing market is loosening up. Now that we can move again, what should we be thinking?
A: When everything was flowing, we all relied on two promises: one you could sell whenever you wanted, and two you would make a profit. That was the mentality. We all had the get-out-free card. Then that changed. That's all the more reason why you can't ignore how you really want to live.