DEAR DR. GRAHAM: My friend recently lost her third husband (all of them by death), and she asked me the other day which one she'd be married to in heaven. I didn't know how to answer, but I could tell this concerns her.
DEAR MRS. M.W.: One day, Jesus was asked almost the same question (although by people who were just trying to trick Him). His reply was clear: In heaven, we won't be married the way we are in this life. He said, ”At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven” (Matthew 22:30).
Does this mean we won't recognize our wives or husbands in heaven, or we won't have anything to do with them? No, absolutely not. Instead, we'll know each other in a far deeper and better way, for all the barriers between us will be completely erased. We'll also have new bodies — bodies like the resurrected body of Jesus Christ. Although we can't fully imagine what this will be like, you can be sure heaven will be filled with joy and celebration.
Every good thing we experience on earth — including human love — is only a foretaste of what we'll experience in heaven. In other words, in Heaven we'll enjoy in a far greater way every good thing we enjoy right now. All evil will be destroyed, and even this earth will be renewed and become part of our heavenly experience. The Bible says, ”In keeping with his promise we are looking forward to a new heaven and a new earth, the home of righteousness” (2 Peter 3:13).