In March, Art Cotton became senior director of development for the Oklahoma Boathouse Foundation, after several years as OCU's vice president for advancement and external relations. A month later, Sandy Cotton became director of development for the Oklahoma City Museum of Art in downtown Oklahoma City after leaving her post as OCU's senior director of university advancement and development.
“We worked together for many years and now we don't, but we still feel like we're pulling together because we're working to make Oklahoma City better,” Sandy Cotton said.
The couple said they felt honored when they were chosen as one of the Oklahoma Marriage Initiative's “Most Inspiring Couples.”
Art Cotton said they feel blessed to have a successful blended family because many couples bringing children into a marriage experience difficulties.
Sandy Cotton said her advice to parents heading blended families is to emphasize the importance of being fair to all of the
“You have to forget the bloodlines,” she said.
As for marriage advice in general, the Cottons said couples should strive for good communication, respect each other and be able to apologize to each other. Sandy Cotton said if there are disagreements, recognize that there are two sides of the issue because men and women see things differently,
She said she and her husband are fortunate that the attributes that have made each of them successful in their professional lives have translated to success in their marriage.
“I'm more detailed. Art is more ‘big picture.' I'm a little more realistic. He's known as the eternal optimist,” she said.
“We recognize each other's strengths and weaknesses, and we make a good team.”
The couple said there is one thing they don't ever want to do together: Build a house.
“We think that might be the thing to bring us over the edge,” Sandy Cotton said, smiling.
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