Perhaps the bully is being abused emotionally or physically at home or is having trouble learning in school. Perhaps the bully doesn't have anyone positive in his or her life to guide the child in the proper direction, like a Chris Wood.
If we want to do away with bullying, perhaps we would be wise to see the boy or girl who is acting out through such behavior as someone who needs help — and offer instruction on more effective ways to cope.
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