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"Love is blind," that is, until you've been married awhile. When the honeymoon is over and life settles in, you may start to discover various flaws, annoying habits or things that make life more difficult that your spouse says or does. If your wife is a nag and terrible housekeeper or your husband has bad manners or doesn't help out around the house, then this article is for you. Say goodbye to the undesirable and hello to the "perfect" person you thought you married. You CAN change your spouse with a few easy techniques.
1. Look for the positive and focus on it
Even if you think your husband does nothing right, there really are good things about him. Start small, and then gradually increase your list. Think back to what attracted you to him in the first place. Was it his good looks? Did he treat you kindly? Is he a hard worker? Is there great physical chemistry? Write these positive traits down and add to the list as you think of more. Is he a good father? What special skills or talents does he possess? Look for the positive and focus on it. The good traits will start to stand out, and you will begin to notice more to add to the list.
2. Be positive when talking to or about your spouse
When you speak to your wife, make sure you talk to her as an equal. Show respect in your words and actions. It may be tempting to bash on your wife with your friends or family, but this will only exacerbate the problem. If there is a real issue that needs to be dealt with, either talk and work it out with her or talk to a professional about it. When you speak positively to and about your wife, your love for her will shine through and keep your focus on the good.
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