I find myself shopping for a new man in my life this holiday season, and I feel a little unsure. It’s always been easier for me to shop for women or girls. My husband and I have one child, a recently married daughter, and whether pure luck or an acquired skill, I almost always score with her gifts. It helps that she loves fashion and beauty, so that kind of shopping swings in my favor. Shopping for guys never seems as much fun. Maybe it’s because I’m married to a man who cares more about cars and tools than he does clothes and shoes. Even when he used to wear a suit daily, he never really appreciated the gift of a beautiful tie — unless it came from his daughter. Shopping for someone you know well, male or female, is always easier, too. This Christmas, I’m shopping for a son-in-law who will have been in the family for just seven weeks. Oh, we’ve known Garret for more than four years, and he’s been on the receiving end of Christmas for the past two holidays. I didn’t feel any pressure about those gifts. In fact, I think one of them was a gift card to his favorite restaurant. I’m not stressing out this holiday, either, but I certainly want to please and surprise. I’m all about surprises, especially for the holidays. While some people like money and gift cards, my daughter, Stephanie, and I have always preferred to be surprised. For me, part of the joy of the holidays is selecting gifts I think people will enjoy, and I love it when someone takes the time to shop for a gift he or she thinks I will like. Stephanie has shared some gift ideas for Garret, and I have a few of my own. It’s not as if I need to buy much, because neither of them expect it. We all agreed the wedding was a birthday, Christmas and we-are-family gift all rolled into one fun-filled, beautifully wrapped celebration. Anyone who knows me well knows I could never stick to such an agreement. I’ve been buying their stocking stuffers for months. Today is Stephanie’s birthday, and she has several presents to open from her father and me. She’ll have gifts to open on Christmas morning, too. So will Garret. Right now, his gifts are a surprise — even to me.