DEAR ABBY: Over the years I have become friends with a client of mine, “Doug.” I live in Wisconsin; he lives in Florida. We are both happily married and share about family and work. We use instant messaging for work-related issues and to chitchat. We have typed “I love you” to each other at times — but only if we're being sarcastic, joking around or saying thanks for some help.
My husband doesn't think you can say “I love you” to a friend without having feelings or wanting more. I have never regarded Doug as anything but a friend, and he feels the same. Can I say “I love you” to a friend without it meaning something more?
— Spreading the Love
DEAR SPREADING: In my opinion you can, and many people do. There is a difference between saying “I love you” and “I am IN love with you,” and I'm surprised that your husband doesn't realize it. Could he be feeling insecure?
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