WASHINGTON — After several years of a passionate but star-crossed courtship, the United States and Pakistan seem to be trying something different: a calmer, quieter relationship with lower expectations, greater distance and fewer feuds.
The two countries, in effect, have taken a step back from their intense partnership and moved toward a more pragmatic framework.
The changed tone dates to a Nov. 26, 2011, incident in which U.S. aircraft attacked a border post inside Pakistan, killing 24 Pakistani soldiers. The Pakistani military was furious about this violation of its sovereignty — which came on top of the May 2 U.S. attack on Osama bin Laden in Abbottabad and the January killing of two Pakistanis by a CIA contractor named Raymond Davis.
This time, the Pakistanis stayed mad. They cut off road access to supply U.S. forces in Afghanistan and took other steps to signal their displeasure. Rather than chase after them, as it has often done in past flaps, the Obama administration stood back and let tempers cool.
Over the past several months, both sides seem to have become comfortable with the increased distance. A Pakistani parliamentary committee is completing an official review of the relationship.
What seems likely after the dust settles is what a U.S. official terms a “new normal,” in which the two nations still cooperate but with less intensity and visibility. The watchword for each side will be “stop driving yourself crazy,” jokes the official.
To complete this reset, the two nations will have to work out quiet compromises on three key issues: drone attacks on militants in Pakistan's tribal areas; border access to Afghanistan; and reconciliation talks with the Taliban. On each, the trick will be finding a formula that balances Pakistani sovereignty and American security interests.
Reading the tea leaves, you can see the outlines of likely resolutions on all three: