I asked her to repay me before the trip. She said she “needs the cruise for her mental health.” I am shocked and very angry. When I lost my temper and told her off, she accused me of being “greedy and money-obsessed.”
Abby, I helped her when she needed it! What should I do?
— Furious, San Francisco
DEAR FURIOUS: When your “friend” returns from her sea cruise, see if you can get her to agree to a repayment plan for the sake of your mental — and financial — health. However, if she refuses, you may have to write off the loan as tuition in the school of experience. Your mistake was not getting the terms of the loan in writing.
DEAR ABBY: I have two sons who will graduate from college on the same day. My wife and I would like to attend both ceremonies, but for obvious reasons, we cannot. How do I resolve this dilemma?
— Father in Texas
DEAR FATHER: Divide and conquer. You attend one graduation and your wife the other. To decide which one, you and the Mrs. should draw straws.
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