DEAR ABBY: I want to ask your opinion about something. I work at a doughnut shop inside a college campus. I have a tip jar, and many customers are generous and share their change with me.
My problem is other people who feel entitled to the money in my tip jar. There have been instances when some of them realized they were a few cents short, so they stuck their hands in my tip jar and fished out the coins they wanted. It is not out of ignorance! The jar is clearly labeled “Tips — Thank you.” If I tell them they can't take the money, they get angry. One lady screamed at me, saying I was “selfish,” and the money in the jar shouldn't be just for me!
What do you think, Abby? Am I too upset over a few cents? Or am I right to feel robbed and stand up for myself when people do this?
Doing My Job on Campus
DEAR DOING MY JOB: I don't blame you for feeling robbed. Your tips ARE meant just for you, and you have earned every penny your customers left in recognition of your good service. What these people are doing is petty theft. Some establishments avoid this problem by leaving a small container of pennies on the counter. Please suggest it to your boss.
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