These are just two examples of modern relationships that seem to require a new vocabulary. I have tried searching the Internet for answers without luck. Any suggestions?
Family Man in Texas
DEAR FAMILY MAN: When introducing your late daughter's husband and his wife, try this: “This is my son-in-law ‘Sam' and his wife, ‘Virginia.'” If you're asked for clarification, which I doubt will happen, give more details. As to the woman's daughters who are not blood related to you, because they call you “Granddad,” refer to them as your granddaughters and leave it at that.
DEAR ABBY: Where does the priest get the ashes for Ash Wednesday?
Mary, Vista, Calif.
DEAR MARY: Traditionally, palm branches from the previous year's Palm Sunday are burned to create the ashes, and those ashes are retained for the next year's Ash Wednesday. Some people keep the palm fronds from the last Palm Sunday tucked behind a cross or a religious picture in their home and bring them to be burned.
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