My main problem is that at lunch he follows me around when I go to talk to my other friends. When I move to another part of the table, he moves, too — right across from me — so I can't talk without him butting in. He's like a maggot sticking to me!
I wish he could find some other friends and not hang out with me all the time. I like him as a person, but what can I do to make him stop following me?
— Bugged, Chatham, N.J.
DEAR BUGGED: Level with him privately and tell him exactly what you have told me. You would be doing him a kindness. Explain to him that while you like him, you also need to spend time with your other friends — and to please make other seating arrangements a couple of days a week. That way, you're not cutting him off completely.
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