EDMOND — An author and ministry leader with two sons said she grew up in a “girlie world” with five sisters and a much younger brother and knew little about raising boys.
“For me who grew up in a girlie world it was a big learning curve to be a mother to boys,” Cheri Fuller, of Edmond, said recently.
“I had not been through the things that my sons were going through. Boys have boy energy and they have adventure needs we don't have,” she said.
Fuller said her new book “What a Son Needs From his Mom” (Bethany House, $12.99) is designed to help mothers understand their role in guiding their boys to manhood — whether they grew up surrounded by girls as she did or if they just seek wisdom on raising sons.
She said the insights that she gleaned as the mother of her sons Justin, 41, and Chris, 38, inspired her to write her latest book, plus she wanted to be helpful to other mothers.
“This is a way to share what makes boys and young men tick and how to become a welcome and warm influence at every stage of their life,” she said.
Fuller, a former Oklahoma Mother of the Year, author of “When Mothers Pray” and founder of the Redeeming the Family prison ministry, said the book is designed for mothers of sons of any age, from very young all the way to adulthood.
The big picture
“It gives moms a very big picture of this whole journey and what it's about: we're preparing the kite for the flight,” she said. “We're preparing for them to leave us — not to hang on. We want to help them develop confidence and become independent.”
Fuller said she has met many mothers who feel inadequate raising boys because they feel like “this isn't my territory.”
“They had several girls and then they were surprised by a boy,” she said, chuckling. “But it's very rewarding. I wanted moms to know they can have an indelible influence on their son's lives. Yes, boys need their dads to model masculinity, but the mother contributes so much and each chapter talks about a different need that a mother fills for her son. She is his greatest encourager, his confidence builder.”
Fuller said chapters include ways to be a better listener and communicator, how to develop a boy's character, how to nurture his face, help him mange his emotions and build his confidence.