“It's important not to be too critical when our sons make mistakes because when we're critical on a regular basis, they grow up to feel inadequate and are not confident. If we are very overprotective, they grow up feeling very needy and dependent and we don't want that,” she said. “It's about balance.”
She said the book includes experiences from her own life as a mom of boys (she and her husband, Holmes, also have one daughter, Alison Plum) and grandmother of three boys, as well as interviews with other mothers of sons and even sons themselves.
“I do share some stories from my own life, but I have stories about a lot of other mothers throughout the book because there's so much we can learn from each other. I think this enriches the book,” she said.
Fuller said she also gleaned helpful information when she interviewed sons about their mothers. For instance, she said fourth- and fifth-grade boys told her they felt their mothers weren't listening to them when the women spent a lot of time on their smartphone or iPad.
“They begin to feel your Facebook friends are more important than listening to them. They feel we are so distracted that we are not tuned in,” she said.
Most importantly, Fuller said faith should play a key role in developing healthy sons just as much as meeting their other needs.
“We can have great influence on our children through our prayers,” she said. “Instead of being anxious about every single thing, we can weave prayer into our daily lives and praying for our sons. There are going to be things in every son's life that we feel like are out of our control, things that are anxiety producing.”
She said she is very proud of both her sons who are now parents themselves. She said Justin lives in the metro area while Chris lives in the Dallas area.
Fuller said parents have a huge task in raising children in today's society and she hopes her book will help in some way.
“I think it's a challenging time to be parenting today so I hope that this is going to be encouraging to mothers,” she said.