NEW YORK — Was it a proud revelation, or an impassioned case for privacy? A coming-out speech, or a why-SHOULD-I-come-out speech? Too little and too late, or just enough?
Jodie Foster's rambling, fascinating and intensely personal remarks at the Golden Globes were not merely the water cooler moment of the ceremony. They were a big moment for the gay community, and many advocates — though not all — were cheering her on Monday for finally referring publicly to her sexual orientation, albeit in her own particular way.
While some were criticizing the actress for not uttering the words “gay” or “lesbian,” and for waiting decades to come out at all, others were saying she deserved to come out in any way she chose, and with any words she happened to favor.
“No doubt, she was partly speaking in code, and she may never have wrapped her words around the fact that she is a lesbian,” said Fred Sainz of the Human Rights Campaign, a national gay rights group. “But everyone watching clearly understood that she was communicating to people that she is gay. She is to be congratulated, no matter how awkward or inarticulate it may have seemed to some. It took an awful lot of courage.”
The moment that Foster, a 50-year-old Oscar winner for “The Silence of the Lambs” and “The Accused,” took the stage to accept the Cecil B. DeMille Lifetime Achievement Award, it was clear she wasn't going to give a run-of-the-mill speech. The huge roomful of TV and movie stars fell rapt with attention.
“I guess I have a sudden urge to say something that I've never really been able to air in public,” said the actress and director, long known for being fiercely private. She suggested she had something to say that would make her publicist nervous.
“But, you know, I'm just going to put it out there, right? Loud and proud, right? So I'm going to need your support on this,” she said. Then, after a pause: “I am single.”
After some laughter, she added: “Seriously, I hope that you're not disappointed that there won't be a big coming-out speech tonight because I already did my coming-out about a thousand years ago back in the Stone Age.”
After joking that celebrities are now expected to reveal they're gay “with a news conference, a fragrance and a prime-time reality show,” the actress quipped: “I am not Honey Boo Boo Child. No. I'm sorry. That's just not me.” And then, more defiantly: “If you had been a public figure from the time that you were a toddler, if you'd had to fight for a life that felt real and honest and normal against all odds, then maybe you, too, might value privacy above all else.”