Gay teens’ responses to Tulsa survey reveal risk for suicide

TULSA — Openarms Youth Project seems like a typical youth hangout.

Posters and original artwork adorn the dark interior walls of the modest building at 2015 S Lakewood Ave.

On Thursday evening, smokers stood outside the door welcoming visitors.

Inside, a couple dozen young people stood around in groups, laughing and talking. Some sat at computers. Others finished a lasagna supper.

A pool table sat idle.

But at 7 p.m., as the teens gathered in a circle of folding chairs for what they call "group,” it became evident this was a haven for gay teens in a world that can be hostile to them.

And it was evident they loved the place.

"We’re all like one big family here, no one judges you,” said Kat Weaver, a Holland Hall student.

"I’m friends with everyone,” said Misti Teufel, "What else could you ask for in a home? This is a home for youth.”

Teufel said she loved it at Openarms because "you have no clue who is straight and who is gay.”

Ben Crittenden said the center "helps me be who I am, and not be afraid.”

Marriah Phillips said, "This place inspired me to come out. That’s why I still come.”

The center is open every Thursday for dinner and a group discussion, and every Saturday for a party, with music and dancing.

Founder Tim Gillean said about 200 young people attend on Saturdays.

The $4 admission fee pays the rent and utilities.